It is a scary and sad statistic that as many as 7 in 10 long-term relationships have a limited sex life.
There are many reasons for this, according to research, with the key cause being having a baby, followed closely by having to work long hours and fatigue. All of these are things that most people can relate to at one time or another, hence why it is as high as 7 in 10 couples.
However, this is by no means the beginning of the end, and there are many ways you can reboot your sex life with your partner with some easy-to-follow steps. So, read on to learn more.
Go to Shops
Okay, an easy (or not) first step to make, depending on your age, is going to adult shops. Google something like sex shop Weymouth, and you may be surprised at how many stores near you can offer sex toys, sex videos, and other adult-themed paraphernalia.
Of course, if you live somewhere more remote, or find travel hard, then it’s well worth looking online for toys and other items to add to your bedroom collection that will help to spice things up. So, look around in the shops and have fun.
Invest in Yourself
Alongside neglecting relationships due to the hassle of work or raising a child, a person is not going to be feeling sexy if they are not taking time out for themselves.
So, both you and your partner will need to invest time into keeping yourselves looking and feeling desirable. This may mean a massage day for you at the spa or a trip to the hairdressers for them. In short, if you look good, you will feel good and will be more confident with engaging in sex.
Have Date Nights
When was the last time that you and your partner went out for a date night? When was the last time you bought a dress online to draw your partner’s eye?
If it’s been a while, this is not good. Going on date nights allows you and your partner to have time together away from children, pets, and work and allows you to flirt and focus solely on each other. Then, if later on, you can have sex, a date night can go a long way to rekindling that sensual connection.
Reignite Physical Contact
It’s hard to engage in sex with someone if you find physical contact with them awkward. Think about it; how exactly do you touch someone intimately if you haven’t held their hand or stroked their hair in a long time?
Physical touch with your partner, such as cuddling, stroking, or massage, can do a lot to reboot your physical connection to each other. So, start by holding hands, giving neck rubs, or running your hands across each other’s back and see what happens.
Seek Help If Needed
If you and your partner are truly stuck concerning sex, potentially due to deceit, infidelity, or lies, then it may be time to seek professional help. Look for a relationship or sex therapist, as they will be able to offer you advice on how to reconnect and work through issues that you may be struggling with.